Whats changed?

I had the NCT girls round today. All the babbas are looking so big and becoming more energetic and wanting loads of attention. Inka was a very polite host, taking great interest in her friends and having some tummy time with Millie. We had an interesting discussion about how a baby changes your life and how you see things differently. My friend was saying how she can understand people not wanting a child, but that now she has one its more amazing and she has so much love for her little one. I commented on what an impact Inka`s birth had been on Andy. After our first scan at 12 weeks he couldn't believe how developed the baby was and started to think about reasons why women would choose to have an abortion. It's opened a whole world of information he didn't know existed. When he spoke to me about it I must admit I was a little preoccupied with Inka and all Id been through. After a while I could see Andy really being consumed by the whole abortion issue. I started thinking about the confident lines Id heard so often from people, like "Its a woman`s right to choose" and "Only a woman can decide what to do with her body". I'd never really thought to question all those statements connected with Feminist thinking so prevalent at my University. The thing is, now Ive had a baby I know how connected to the baby a mother can become. You see her as a person there waiting. If I had a miscarriage I would be devastate. How then does it change if a child is an accident or a mother doesn't want the baby? Do those feelings about the child inside you make it less of a person? We live in a world where the media and our education can tell us what to think. We don't stop to question the morals it spews at us. We are told there is no real wrong or right, only our own sense of truth. Doesn't that then mean there is no truth? Truth by is very definition means its got to apply to all of us. So is she a person inside the womb or merely a cluster of cells that we can do whatever we like to? I cant see how you can have it both ways.